“If you expect the world to be fair to you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him” Anonymous.
Life is not fair. That is something we get to learn even from a young age. Like for instance, why do the good die young? Does Tom Mboya, Martin Luther King Jnr or even F. Scot Fitzgerald come to mind anyone? Is that fair? Why didn’t the hand of fate intervene when the Grim Reaper turned up to carry out his duty? These and many others are questions to which no mortal soul can provide a comprehensive answer to. Maybe people who have experiential knowledge acquired from near-death incidents can, but that is a story for another day.
The thing is, life is not and will never be fair. As a child, I became a repository of insurmountable amounts of disdain from my own relatives because I was born on a day considered a taboo in our culture; hence they assumed I was the reason for the woes that were befalling our family. I was just child; too young to understand what was transpiring around me, and yet, there I was, a bane to my extended family. Is that fair?
After tertiary education, I came to Kenya, only to realize later that my host family were cunning cons. Later on, my son fell gravely ill, my Mum, Dad and my only sibling passed away, and a whole lot of other hardships came my way. I almost lost my life…Not once; but twice! Again, is that fair? Isn’t that too much for one person to ingest?
I know this is a bitter pill to swallow but, wielding the notion that life will be fair is tantamount to setting ourselves up for regular disappointment especially when we encounter suffering. One has to man up and tirelessly go through whatever life throws our way with courage, determination and the belief that we can effect change by bolstering our resolve to never, ever quit.
As sentient beings with a limited amount of time on earth, our circumstances are different from everyone else’s. What does this mean? That we have to handle our own circumstances differently. Never focus on the unfairness of any situation lest you become a slave to it. Face it, learn from it and move on.
Have a fair week ahead, won’t you?